What kind of person are you when it comes to conflict?
Do you go straight the issue and resolve it as quickly as possible? Do you try to avoid it, hoping that it will go away? Do you move on, as if nothing has happened?
There are many different ways we respond to conflict…and it tends to lean on how we view conflict.
Conflict can be with:
Others
Our environment
Our own thoughts
Believe it or not, conflict is a very healthy part of life. No matter what we do, we cannot control others, or our environment, but we can control our thoughts and beliefs about conflict.
Yes, we already know that conflict is not fun and it can be very uncomfortable. We put ourselves out there, others may get upset with us, we may create tension, or possibly lose relationships. So how can it be healthy if it causes such turmoil?
Conflict helps us to:
Communicate better, or in a different way
Figure out who we really are
Problem solve
Define our boundaries
Conflict also helps us to move closer to the life we want. When we take a step back, we can ask ourselves:
What do I really want for this situation right now?
How do I want to move forward in this time?
Where will I be in 1 year if this doesn’t change?
What barriers or obstacles do I need to address to resolve this?
What next small step can I take?
I invite you to do something different right now if the circumstances of your life seem overwhelming. I encourage you to take some time to reflect, some time to ask yourself the hard questions, and to really listen. If you need some support, I’m here for you!
As always, however you are feeling today, I want you to know that you are never alone. I encourage you to reach out—if not to me, then to someone!
I believe in you,
Teresa
P.S. If you know someone who may benefit from this information, please do not hesitate to forward this information. Thank you!
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