It’s unfortunate we weren’t given a grief manual to follow from the beginning of our lives—add to that, a marriage manual, a parenting manual, a finance manual and so on!
As we grew up, we depended on others to show us, tell us, even guide us to dealing with grief. The sad truth is that most people didn’t fully understand what grief was and were just passing along information that was handed to them, even though it wasn’t very helpful.
One of the challenges I face is helping people understand that grief deserves to be acknowledged and deserves our attention. Yes it may hurt and yes it feels really good to get to the other side of grief, which is healing.
Sometimes, though, we just don’t know where to begin.
The first step, which may be the scariest step, is asking for help. Sometimes we feel so alone, like no one understands us, and healing seems so far from reality. The truth is, no one will understand your grief. No one can ever fully feel what you’ve experienced because we are all unique in our thoughts, beliefs and experiences—but just because no one may understand your loss doesn’t mean there cannot be healing.
The second step is identifying the myth(s) you may be holding onto. When we realize which myths we are holding onto and why, it sheds light on what may be keeping us from healing.
When we start digging a little deeper, you are empowered to choose how to move forward.
The third step, we begin to uncover how different grieving experiences have affected your life. By learning new tools on how to approach grief, you are equipped to better move towards completion in your life, relationships, and experiences.
How does this sound: in seven short weeks, you will gain a new perspective on your grief and loss? More importantly, there is healing that you may not have ever thought possible.
In the next blogs, I will begin identifying and digging a little deeper into each myth. I’m sure most of you have heard some of them—or all of them—and begin to understand how these myths may keep us stuck, frustrated and feeling alone.
As always, however you are feeling today, I want you to know that you are never alone. I am here for you. Please give me a call 951.523.7959 or send me an email, teresa@restorationshoppe.com. I promise you, I may not know what to say or do, but I can always be a huge heart with ears.
I believe in you,
Teresa
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