As we grow up we are given many tips, ways of being, or the “rules” of life, for:
Money
Career
Health
Relationships
Parenting
Communication
Success and Failure
and so on…
Most of the information I took in growing up was from my Mom. She was a single Mom and she struggled in a lot of areas in life: Money was tight, she went to a job that she didn’t love each day, and her relationships, well, they weren’t everything she wanted them to be. Needless to say, she had a different perspective on life than I did.
I grew up believing that if there wasn’t a struggle, then I wasn’t doing what I “was supposed to.” In my twenties I began doing things differently, which created tension in my relationship with my Mom. I was chosen to fill different positions within the federal sector—I looked at it as gaining experience, my Mom saw it as me being “flaky.”
During these growing years, I learned that:
Money: not everyone has debt and I didn’t have to carry on the financial burdens
Career: gaining experience in many different areas is helpful and often times encouraged
Health: I have this one body and I need to learn how to take care of it
Relationships: when someone shows you who they are, believe them!
Communication: I have a voice that deserves to be heard
Parenting: just because I have a kid doesn’t make me an expert! There’s a lot to learn about myself and others in this area
Success & Failure: success looks different to everyone and failure is not the end of the world
What advice, tips, or knowledge was passed onto you?
You may find yourself asking, do these "rules" still apply to my life today?
How can I update these rules to align with my goals today?
When we begin to ask different questions, we may also need to:
Acknowledge that:
what works for others may not work for us
you are unique and we have different gifts and talents to be honored
Know that:
you can shift your rules for life to align with your goals
you have this life to live on your terms…you can make the best of it!
Accept that:
you are your biggest cheerleader
not everyone will agree with you or support you - even friends and family
Living life your way may not always be easy…and it really doesn’t have to be so difficult, either.
As always, however you are feeling today, I want you to know that you are never alone. I encourage you to reach out—if not to me, then to someone!
I believe in you,
Teresa
P.S: If you know someone who you believe may benefit from this information, don’t be shy! Please pass it on!
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